1:1 Family Constellations with Kate

Welcome. I’m so glad you’ve found your way here.

There’s a reason you’re here.

This space is for you—the sensitive soul, the truth-seeker, the one who’s been carrying a weight that doesn’t quite feel like yours. Maybe it’s the echo of what’s been said… or the painful silence that followed your heartfelt plea to be seen. Maybe you’ve carried the invisible burden of a family system that couldn’t hold your truth—and it’s left you questioning your place in it all.

If that resonates, I want you to know:
I see you.
I see your heart, your courage, and the deep ache that’s asking to be held differently.

You may not be able to name it, but you feel it—the tension, the silence, the grief that lingers beneath the surface of your family story. You’ve tried to talk about it, to heal it, to understand it. 

And yet, the cycle repeats.

You are not alone.

Because this isn't just about you.

It’s ancestral. It’s patterned. It’s inherited.

It’s moved silently through generations—in loyalty, in control, in the belief that love must be earned, not freely given.

And yet, here you are—awake, aware, and standing in the sacred space between the old story and something new.

This is where Family Constellations begins.

In my 1:1 sessions, we gently bring light to the hidden patterns and inherited stories living beneath your lived experience. Through somatic, systemic, and intuitive processes, we begin to see the bigger picture—and your true place within it.

 In every family system, there is a deep, invisible web of belonging that binds us to one another—across generations, across time. Sometimes, when a person is excluded, shamed, forgotten, or denied their rightful place—whether through trauma, conflict, death, or silence—the family system unconsciously rearranges itself to compensate for the loss. This is what we call an entanglement.

Entanglements are unconscious bonds we form—often out of love and loyalty—to carry what hasn’t been seen, resolved, or grieved. We may unknowingly take on another’s pain, fate, guilt, or emotional burden, in an attempt to bring balance back to the system.

As Bertold Ulsamer expresses:

“When someone is pushed out or excluded from the system, other members—or the whole group—have to rearrange themselves to make up for the exclusion. This puts the system out of order. Once the excluded person is brought back into the system, it frees those who were entangled with that disturbance.”
 

In my experience, these entanglements often show up as deep emotional pain that doesn’t seem to have a clear origin, as repeating life patterns, or as a persistent feeling of “carrying too much.”

Family Constellations helps us gently uncover these hidden loyalties—not to blame or fix—but to see them, to honour what happened, and to allow each soul to return to their rightful place. And when that happens, something profound unfolds. The system begins to reorganise itself, not around pain or exclusion, but around truth, love, and wholeness.

In that moment, healing doesn’t just ripple through you—it touches generations past and generations yet to come.

You’ve tried to reach them—with love, with honesty.

You’ve said, “Can we talk? Can we make this real?”

And when no one came to meet you there, you were left holding not just your grief—but the grief of generations.

The system needed someone to carry the discomfort.

And that someone was you.

But this isn’t punishment.

It’s an initiation.

Into truth.

Into liberation.

Into becoming the one who sees differently—and dares to live a new story.

You don’t have to keep carrying what was never yours.

You get to place it down.

You get to rest.

You get to write a new chapter—one where love is not conditional, and honesty is not punished.

This is the work of Family Constellations.

And I would be honoured to walk it with you.

“For years, I kept attracting jealousy and ‘mean girl’ energy in workplaces and women’s circles—even when I led with kindness. Through Family Constellation work, I uncovered a deep ancestral pattern in my mother line—generations of women who felt unsafe around each other and had to compete for love and approval. Once I saw and released what wasn’t mine to carry, I felt a profound shift. I now stand more confidently in my energy, without shrinking or over-explaining, and I’m attracting the kind of female support I always longed for.” ~ Jennifer

“I struggled for years with trust and comparison in female friendships. I often felt excluded or judged, even when I tried to stay small to keep the peace. In a Family Constellation session, I discovered a hidden grief in my lineage—women who had lost sisters or love, and carried silent rivalry and pain. That session helped me release generations of competition and reclaim my place in the sisterhood with grace. Now I hold firmer boundaries, speak more truthfully, and honour my light without guilt.” ~ Jane

“I came to Family Constellation work exhausted by the chaos in my family—cycles of dysfunction, addiction, and emotional shutdown that kept repeating. I felt like I was always the one holding everything together, but also carrying guilt, shame, and deep loneliness. In the constellation, I saw how alcoholism had silently shaped generations before me—especially the men. I was unknowingly entangled in trying to fix what my ancestors couldn’t express or heal.
Something softened in me when I gave back what was never mine to carry. I stopped trying to rescue or hold responsibility for the pain of the past. Now, I feel more centred in my own life and choices. I can love my family without being consumed by the dysfunction. It was a turning point in my healing—a shift I couldn’t reach through talk therapy alone.” ~ Belinda

“I kept finding myself in relationships with emotionally unavailable men, always over-giving, always trying to prove I was worthy of love. In my family, I was seen as the ‘strong one’—the fixer, the one who held the emotional weight no one talked about. Underneath, I felt unseen, unchosen, and quietly exhausted. Through Family Constellation work, I saw how deeply I was entangled with my father’s absence—both emotionally and physically—and how I’d taken on the role of scapegoat to protect others from their discomfort.
In the session, I was able to return that misplaced loyalty and stand in my own rightful place—not as the emotional caretaker, but as a daughter. That shift changed everything. I began to set boundaries with compassion, to stop rescuing others at my own expense, and to see my worth beyond how much I give. For the first time, I feel free to choose connection that’s mutual, healthy, and safe.” ~ Katherine

If your heart is heavy…

If you’ve felt unseen in your family…

If you know there’s more beneath the surface of what you’ve lived…

I welcome you.

To come as you are.

To meet what is ready to be witnessed.

And to remember the deeper belonging that’s always been yours.

Let’s begin.